Reasons I Like Pretty Little Liars: A Partial List
-Passes the Bechdel Test
-More than passes the Bechdel Test
-ALL the main characters are actually ALL women and they actually all have conversations with each other about important and unimportant things many of which have nothing to do with men but have to do with the relationships between the women and the things going on in their lives
-there is a queer WOC in the main cast
-there are other queer women and WOC in the supporting cast
-the ethical principles of the characters and the show is ambiguous; for example, honesty is notably problematized and its status as a virtue or a component of an ethical system is unclear
-law and law enforcement are critiqued and their benevolence and effectiveness are never assumed
-there is a lot of questioning of the safety/sanctity/other myths of the [nuclear] family
-there is no huge deal made about virginity/purity and, consequently, any virgin/whore dichotomizing is either inconsequential or a lot less consequential than it is in comparable television shows
-like in the first season one of the characters breaks up with her boyfriend because she wants to have sex and he doesn’t. and yet her desire is not trivialized and she is not punished and ends up with a nice guy who she is more compatible with.
-i can’t believe these things i struggle to find in shows, and yet they are, and pretty little liars does these things and so i like it
Things I don’t like about Pretty Little Liars
-there is fat shaming, sort of
-the treatment of disability makes me want to give the writers the side-eye most of the time
-everyone is upper middle class [except Caleb, who is cool]
Thin privilege is not being told that your weight is what’s causing abdominal pain.
Thin privilege is not being misdiagnosed by your doctor and almost dying due to your appendix rupturing.
Thin privilege is going to the doctor and being properly diagnosed with what you’re experiencing.
Agreed that thin privilege makes it easier to get diagnosed by a doctor. Though I also like how shitty some doctors are at their jobs in general and seem to want to give antibiotics away like candy for colds and then refuse to diagnose anything else.. “Oh you are bleeding from your ear? That must be your anxiety.”
"Women hate me because I’m beautiful"
I don’t know why I read this article, but I did:
Basically Samantha Brick, who is apparently a journalist of sorts and basically only known for this inflammatory article in which she explains why it is so hard for to be so beautiful. Not only are men occasionally doing things like buying her tickets when they’re behind her in line and randomly giving her flowers, but women are jealous, catty, and always trying to keep her from getting good jobs and banging their husbands.
This is my variety of reactions to the article:
1) I hope I don’t ever look like Samantha Brick.
2) Not because she’s ugly (not that I mind ugliness) but because she is boorrrrring.
3) Jade that was not a nice thing to say. Oh my god you’re as bad as Samantha Brick.
4) But seriously, I am offended by the level of misogyny required for her to construe women who are “not beautiful” as hateful, jealous, vindictive, petty creatures who are hung up on the fact that she is skinner or blonder or whatever than they are. While there may or may not be people who feel like that, I’m sure there are a lot more who do not. (It’s impossible to tell from her article, however, because she uses this awesome rhetorical strategy where she only reports a few isolated incidents that confirm her belief).
5) But then I got confused because she also wrote this article: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2171225/I-snoop-mans-emails-I-dont-trust-women-says-Samantha-Brick.html about how she needs to check on all of her husband’s personal communications because “She doesn’t trust other women” because, basically, they are conniving little seductresses who will steal away her husband if she doesn’t check up on him. And now I’m not sure if she’s a misogynist or a misandrist. While her distaste for women is clear, she also seems to think that her husband is a poor gullible boy unworthy of trust or respect (blaming it on the other women does not negate the fact that you still think he is utterly vulnerable to their advances and too credulous to discern their deceits). I don’t know what’s worse: being the sex despised or the sex too incompetent to function on its own?
6) Why am I thinking so hard about this?
7) Maybe people are angry because you, author, are not only are privileged in various and obvious ways (thin privilege, white privilege, etc), you are effectively complaining about your privilege and explaining why it is so damn hard to be privileged. People who do that generally tend to get a lot of eye rolls, at the very least.
lovelywinkers said: In what other areas of life do you define the standard as “the minimum needed to survive”, you have a tumblr, meaning you have access to at least several things you don’t need for survival, is that morally wrong? or is food special somehow?
wavesandmoon said: One should not make that assumption because one is not that person or that person’s doctor. Perhaps there are other things at play that contribute to the person’s weight. And even if there aren’t, it’s not actually my business how much that person consumes. I don’t like the…
Okay I’d like to address these both questions simultaneously because they’re both in response to the same post: http://madamedechevre.tumblr.com/post/24207985109/wavesandmoon-answered-your-question-questions
First off, I am using third person because ~I personally~ am not about to go out and start hassling people about their consumption of food or anything else. Really I’m not. Because, as lovelywinkers points out, I’m hardly getting by on “just what I need” so it would be silly of me to make that a standard by which I judge others. I’m asking most of these questions hypothetically, on the internet, because I have no intention of actually playing out any of these scenarios in real life. This blog is a space for me to think through problems so I can inflict my ignorance on people in the face-time world as little as possible.
So, to answer lovelywinkers: yes, I was posing the problem originally as “Is it okay to question and judge people’s food consumption in the same way one might question their consumption of other material goods, such as gasoline?” I wanted to know whether there is a fundamental difference in the way one might interrogate different kinds of consumption, or whether some types of consumption should be exempt from questioning and why. Or perhaps personal choices should never be interrogated and any issue of over-consumption (relating, for instance, to environmental concerns) should only be addressed structurally and socially, not individually. I don’t have an answer to the question.
To answer wavesandmoon: I apologize for the unclear wording. I was assuming that one might make a judgment about consumption not based on weight, but about actual knowledge of the person’s consumption. (Since, of course, weight does not tell the whole story). But perhaps you’re right and it is impossible to know enough about any person to ever make such a judgment.
I guess what I’ve been thinking about as I think of these questions is the relationship between consumption, environmentalism, and privilege. It seems like a complicated threesome.
Confession Time: Confronting my own ignorance about thin privilege
I do not claim to be very enlightened about social justice. (Yes I am doing an M.A. in Social Justice; no it has not taught me half of what I need to know because institutionalized education never can). So I am on an enduring quest to learn more about prejudice, oppression, power, privilege, and isms. Tumblr is very helpful in this respect- firstly because I follow some wonderful people and secondly because the ‘search tags’ feature is very convenient.
In particular, I need to improve my understanding of the related phenomena known as thin privilege and fat phobia. So you may notice that I am posting interesting articles and reblogging illuminating posts that I find that discuss thin privilege, fat shaming, body policing, fat phobia, and the like. It is important to point out here that I have and have always had thin privilege. Doctors are more likely to say I am kind of underweight and ask if I eat enough, but are completely satisfied when I tell them I do and ask me nothing further (a situation that itself would be interesting to analyze, but now is not the time). Consequently, I realize that my understanding of thin privilege will be affected and perhaps impeded by the fact that I have this privilege. As such, I welcome comments, suggestions, criticism, and anything else you think may be helpful for me to know.